There’s an old survival instinct in all of us…ancient and automatic…that screams, “Run!” whenever we’re afraid. Run from fear. Run from responsibility. Run from the conversation, the truth, the work, the grief, the courage it takes to stand still and face what whatever comes next. But nature…real life…tells a different story. In the wild, thereContinue reading “Training Our Fears to Hunt Us”
Tag Archives: Wisdom
Water the Seeds, Not the Struggle
We’ve spent centuries trying to control each other. Maybe it’s time to understand each other instead.
Can Love Still Live Here?
Over the years…behind the bar, across coffee tables, and between late-night confessions…I’ve heard one question more times than I can count:
“Should we stay together for the kids, or just end it and move on?” But that’s the wrong question.
The Truly Addicted Generation:
Ponder this: Only drug dealers and software companies refer to their customers as “users.” That word alone exposes an insidious truth: both addictions thrive on dependency, both hijack the brain’s reward system, and both profit from our inevitable and insatiable surrender. And just as there are synthetic drugs, we are swimming in synthetic dopamine. What’s more synthetic than synthetic? More stimulating that stimulating? The prevalence of AI.
Why Teaching History Doesn’t Work: The Case for Emotional Intelligence
OK, truth, I’m fascinated by history. But who’s version of history have I actually learned? The victors? They tell us “We must learn from history or we are doomed to repeat it.” But clearly learning it has done little to keep us from repeating our cultural, environmental, and ethical missteps. Sure, maybe you can rattleContinue reading “Why Teaching History Doesn’t Work: The Case for Emotional Intelligence”
The Art of Holding Space
To demand silence or “decorum” from the wounded is to ask them to suffocate their own humanity for our comfort. But I will not withhold my presence, my compassion, my love until you are palatable. I will love you until.
Happiness Isn’t a Secret
“Don’t speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your body doesn’t know the difference. Words are energy and they cast spells, that’s why it’s called spelling. Change the way you speak about yourself, and you can change your life.” ~ Bruce Lee Everything we think, say, and do shapes who we become, how we’reContinue reading “Happiness Isn’t a Secret”
Shifting Focus: From Criticism to Grace in Our Lives
Why is it that bad news spreads so much faster than good news? Why do we feel so compelled to share the failures, the scandals, the little annoyances in our daily lives? We’ll complain to anyone who will listen, about the barista who messed up our coffee. We’ll gossip about the athlete who got arrested,Continue reading “Shifting Focus: From Criticism to Grace in Our Lives”
Screaming for Connection
The solution to addiction isn’t sobriety.
The solution to self harm isn’t self discipline.
The solution to overspending isn’t frugality.
The solution to promiscuity isn’t abstinence.
The solution to overeating isn’t dieting.
The solution to them all…is connection.
Blow Your Own Mind.
What people are capable of… is mind-blowing.What people usually do… is disappointing. Yet we all have the same 24 hours in each day.
Harvesting Insights 