Why We Are Uneasy We; those of us living in “developed” nations, often find ourselves living with a subtle ache…a dis-ease living inside. It’s quiet, almost imperceivable, which makes it much more insidious. It shapes our lives in ways we either can’t or won’t see. It whispers in moments of frustration, gnaws in times ofContinue reading “The Quiet Fire Within:”
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Water the Seeds, Not the Struggle
We’ve spent centuries trying to control each other. Maybe it’s time to understand each other instead.
The Power of Words: From Division to Unity
Language shapes thought. Thought shapes belief. Belief shapes behavior. The words we choose become the world we live in, and when our language divides, our hearts follow. The beautiful truth in that means that when our language unites, our hearts follow too!
Can Love Still Live Here?
Over the years…behind the bar, across coffee tables, and between late-night confessions…I’ve heard one question more times than I can count:
“Should we stay together for the kids, or just end it and move on?” But that’s the wrong question.
The Truly Addicted Generation:
Ponder this: Only drug dealers and software companies refer to their customers as “users.” That word alone exposes an insidious truth: both addictions thrive on dependency, both hijack the brain’s reward system, and both profit from our inevitable and insatiable surrender. And just as there are synthetic drugs, we are swimming in synthetic dopamine. What’s more synthetic than synthetic? More stimulating that stimulating? The prevalence of AI.
Why Teaching History Doesn’t Work: The Case for Emotional Intelligence
OK, truth, I’m fascinated by history. But who’s version of history have I actually learned? The victors? They tell us “We must learn from history or we are doomed to repeat it.” But clearly learning it has done little to keep us from repeating our cultural, environmental, and ethical missteps. Sure, maybe you can rattleContinue reading “Why Teaching History Doesn’t Work: The Case for Emotional Intelligence”
The Art of Holding Space
To demand silence or “decorum” from the wounded is to ask them to suffocate their own humanity for our comfort. But I will not withhold my presence, my compassion, my love until you are palatable. I will love you until.
Happiness Isn’t a Secret
“Don’t speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your body doesn’t know the difference. Words are energy and they cast spells, that’s why it’s called spelling. Change the way you speak about yourself, and you can change your life.” ~ Bruce Lee Everything we think, say, and do shapes who we become, how we’reContinue reading “Happiness Isn’t a Secret”
Screaming for Connection
The solution to addiction isn’t sobriety.
The solution to self harm isn’t self discipline.
The solution to overspending isn’t frugality.
The solution to promiscuity isn’t abstinence.
The solution to overeating isn’t dieting.
The solution to them all…is connection.
Ask, and Ye Shall Receive
Our minds are like parachutes. They work best when they’re open. Don’t hold so tightly to what you know to be true. If you let go of what you know, and it stays with you, it’s true. If you let go of what you know, and it disappears into the ether…it isn’t, and probably neverContinue reading “Ask, and Ye Shall Receive”
Harvesting Insights 